Cancer Sucks Big Time OT

[55 Fargo]

Hi all, I know this is not a vent column, but here goes.

My step-father died this morning at 76, he was very healthy large man, was barely taking any meds whatsoever. After Christmas he felt sick, he was diagnosed 4 weeks ago with terminal stomach/bowel cancer, he died this morning at 09:10 CST.

This man was strong, he had to be sedated 24 hours ago, it took 4 people to get him back to bed, he was so close to the end, but very strong. He is onto the great beyond now. Cancer is an awful disease.......................Fred

[Norm's Coupe]

Fred,

Sorry to hear about your stepfather. Our thoughts are with you and your family.

[JerseyHarold]

Condolences to you and yours.

Harold

[knighthawk]

my condolances also, Fred...My brother has cancer also, it's amazing how fast the stuff goes ! Really kinda scary !

[KINGSWAY52]

Sorry to hear Fred

Roar

[Ed Griffin]

Vent all you need to, dont hold it in. So sorry for your loss Fred.

Ed and family

[Young Ed]

Sorry Fred.

[Dennis Hemingway]

Sorry to hear about your loss. Go ahead and vent, we are all friends here and that's what friends are for.

Dennis

[Tony WestOZ]

My condolences to you Fred.

I know it is probable not the right time to bring this up but it never is.

6 years ago my father(70 at the time) was diagnosed with bowel cancer. Luckely they caught it early and only needed a small part of his bowel removed. He is still going strong today.

It was suggested to me and siblings that we all have a colonoscopy(camara up the bum). End result, it saved my sisters life. She had a couple of bad polups which were removed and now she has checks ever couple of years. She was 41 at the time. The rest of the family get checked ever 5 years just to keep an eye on things.

Its recomended if your over 50 go and have a check up.If cancer has been diagnosed in your family and your over 40 go and have a check up.

[daddyo23]

Sorry to hear of your loss, Fred. Lost my Dad 12 years ago to liver cancer. Time heals but I still miss him every day. Wayne P.

[eric wissing]

Sorry for your loss, Fred.

[55 Fargo]

Here is a pic of Mom and Step-dad Alex in summer of 07

[toddbracik]

My condolences go out to you Fred. I agree, cancer is a real SOB.

Hi all, I know this is not a vent column, but here goes.

My step-father died this morning at 76, he was very healthy large man, was barely taking any meds whatsoever. After Christmas he felt sick, he was diagnosed 4 weeks ago with terminal stomach/bowel cancer, he died this morning at 09:10 CST.

This man was strong, he had to be sedated 24 hours ago, it took 4 people to get him back to bed, he was so close to the end, but very strong. He is onto the great beyond now. Cancer is an awful disease.......................Fred

[Niel Hoback]

Sorry to hear of your loss, Fred. But he will live on in your good memories.

My father-in -law was 6'8" and a gentle giant. I see him in my sons, and keep him alive that way.

[PatS....]

My condolences, Fred. My thoughts are with your Mom and the rest of the family. This is a hard time. Vent all you want.

Pat

[BobT-47P15]

Sorry for your loss, Fred. It's never easy.

My wife's brother, age 77, died of cancer the day after Christmas.

Had been in good health til a few weeks prior to his passing.

[Don Coatney]

Fred;

Sorry to hear of your loss.

[40phil41]

Fred,

Very sorry for your loss and condolences to all of your family

Phil

[Heavy Flat Head]

Fred,

Sorry to hear about your loss and condolences to all of you.

Ed.

[55 Fargo]

On behalf of my Mother and my family we thank you all for your words and thoughts..............Fred

[Flatie46]

I 'm sorry , I've lost family to cancer its tough, hang in there you've got friends here. Flatie46

[Joe Flanagan]

Fred, I'm very sorry to hear about your stepfather. I lost my father on September 29. He was 93. It was hard to see him go. Hard too to just keep on going with life. My best to you and your family.

[Rodney Bullock]

Fred, look at the happier times. I know how you feel. When this happens to us it drains you at first, then makes you stronger. I am so sorry for your loss.

[mackster]

Don't know what to say Fred, but sorry for your loss. I also second the need to get check. I'm 32 but I feel like it's important to start early...

[randroid]

Fred,

I've been avoiding saying anything because I'm still in mild shock over Lynn's cancer diagnosis and miraculous 100% recovery during the last eight months, but my heart is with you for she just as easily might not have been kissed by that Angel. It does, however, bring to mind a point of philosophy that is not meant to be comforting nor can it be answered, but rather pondered for a different perspective.

My father was killed when I was thirteen years old and it really hurt, but as a USMC Night Fighter Pilot he was gone half the time anyway and I never got to know him as I would have liked. What if he hadn't died but lived a long full life? I would have gotten to know him better but his passing would have been more difficult to bear.

Which would have been easier for you to grow old with?

There is no answer but the question has helped me at times.

God Bless,

-Lynn & Randy St. John